Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Wedding Wednesday - At Home Ceremony




Do y'all know how hard it is to legally get married in Mexico?

Well, it's hard.

You have to have blood tests, get all your documents translated to Spanish, have the Mexican Consulate notarize all those documents, etc etc etc.

Well, I didn't want to spend 5 days of my vacation worried about all of that, so we decided to do the legal part here in Houston.

We are getting "married" on December 8th (the Saturday before we leave) at our church here in Houston. It's going to be very small. Just our immediate families, and the wedding party if they want to attend. Before I agreed to doing it there, I made sure that it was ok that it was as simple as possible.

I'm not wearing a wedding dress, I'm not walking down the aisle, John and I will arrive together, there will be no music or anything else traditional about this "wedding".

We are going to exchange rings at the church just because it's part of the ceremony, but will be taking them off aftewards and putting them back in their boxes until the 17th. I also won't be changing any documentation of my last name until the 17th. We will celebrate as our anniversary. We are looking at the 8th as a "formality".

Even though it's not traditional, I was pretty sure I still wanted to wear a white dress. I knew it would be hard to find a white dress in December so I've been searching all summer for something.

This picture I found on pinterest was my inspiration...



My wedding shoes are teal and because of the price tag, I knew I wanted to wear them for the church wedding too.

After searching ALL freakin summer for a white dress I finally found one. It's not exactly what I wanted, but I couldn't find any of the lace ones like I wanted.

Here's my outfit for the day...
at home wedding



Yes, it will be December and I'll be wearing a sleeveless dress and open toed shoes, but I don't care. I'll be in "vacation" mode :) I have a white peacoat I can add and my mom even suggested a denim jacket.

John's parents are going to take all of us to lunch afterwards and we'll probably have cake, but that's the extend of the celebration. Then it will be time to pack our millions of decorations, clothes, gifts, etc in to suitcases and head for the airport on Thursday! 

Alot of people have asked me about this and how I feel about "technically" already being married when I walk down the aisle...

I don't care. I don't think it will take away from the moment at all. We are going to treat the 17th just like a normal wedding day. John is going to sleep in a different room and my mom and bridesmaids will be with me getting ready in our room up until 3:30 pm when I see my husband for the first time. That is our wedding day. We are having a real ceremony in Mexico with an officiant, vows, sand ceremony, ring exchanges, and even signed documents. It just won't be legal.

I've also gotten questions like "why not do it after?" 

Honestly, I think this would take away from our wedding day. I would feel like we just went through all of that and yet, still aren't married. We'd have to handle everything when we get back instead of actually enjoying married life. 

So, my questions for all of you...

Would you feel weird attending a wedding of someone who was already "technically" married, even in this situation? 


20 comments:

Tamara @ T {times} Three said...

Girl, don't second guess your decision! We did something very similar, and I wouldn't change it for the world! We asked my uncle who is a captain down in FL to officiate our actual ceremony. Neither of us were raised in a church, so we didn't feel comfortable asking a random preacher to come do the wedding. It turns out, my uncle can only legally marry people on his boat in Florida... not on land in NC. So, we went to the courthouse the day before, signed the papers, had the legal ceremony and all. We felt the same way - its just a formality - it wasn't real for us until the wedding day. We weren't married until we said our vows and walked down the aisle together. I don't think it is weird at all :-)

Whitney @ I Wore Yoga Pants said...

I see absolutely nothing wrong with the way you're doing things. Hell, it's your wedding - get married on a rhino two weeks before your wedding in Mexico, if that's what makes you happy. I love that you're going to rock a bubble necklace, by the way.

Page Twenty-Two said...

I think this makes sense! I went to a wedding 2 years ago and the couple was already married "technically" I think this will save you A LOT of trouble and allow you to have a great time in Mexico!! Love the outfit - who cares if its December - rock it!!

Emily said...

I think you are doing it the perfect way - less stress and things to worry about in Mexico - it is yalls day and I totally support the Rhino thing - maybe you should change it up?? = ) can't wait!!

Jessica Renee said...

I love this idea! And you're so right, why worry about the formalities after your Mexico wedding? Your wedding in Mexico will feel like your TRUE wedding and y'all can come back home really feeling married ;)

Savannah :) said...

I think this is a great plan. I don't think people should feel weird about going at all.

I know a lot of military wives who get "technically-married" so their moving paperwork will go through while they're still planning their wedding ceremony.

I think getting the formalities done first is the best choice, especially in your situation!

Jodi said...

i think the way you are doing it sounds great. you get to have 2 weddings. what could be better! ha! love the outfit. i'm wearing that necklace right now. i know we will all laugh in 10 yrs when we looks back at pics and think what the heck is that necklace!?

Nikki said...

As I was reading I was wondering why you wouldn't do it after so I'm glad you explained it. I think that it's a great idea. If I was a guest I would think...these are some smart people.

Jess @ Blonde Meets World said...

I think the way you're doing it is the smart way to go! And double the love :)

Lauren said...

It would def. be a little weird for me, but girl this is YOUR wedding and you need to do what is best for you! Don't listen to what we think! :)

Ashlee Miller said...

I love the way you two are doing it and I think I would do it the same way if I was in your shoes! Don't second guess yourself. You're doing whats right for you.

Katie said...

I think I'd do it the same way-- definitely before instead of after. And it's your wedding, do what you want!! :)

Kelly B. said...

I think it's Perfect!! Love the outfit too!

Perfectly Jenn said...

I think you are making the right decision for you and John and that's all that matters! Do not worry about what others think or say.

I love what you chose and who cares because it's December in TX which I'm sure will still be sunny and in the 70's!

Valerie said...

Do you have an H&M where you live? My BFF just wore a fabulous lace dress to her Bridal Shower and she purchased it at H&M. Here's the link if you're interested!

http://www.hm.com/us/product/98069?article=98069-D

Lisa said...

This is the reason Mike and I decided not to do it in Mexico - we ran into the whole legality issue. Logistically it was a mess for us. But we ended up not getting married anyway...of course that was after I had already planned a church wedding!

Heather said...

I don't see a thing wrong with actually "getting married" before the big day, especially since your wedding is in Mexico...and let's be honest, I don't think anyone would willingly go through those technicalities to get married in Mexico. That's just crazy! If I were in your shoes I'd do the same thing!

Carolyn said...

Hi there! I just found your blog, and have been reading back... I love it! :) New follower!

I think this is totally the best way to do a Mexico wedding! I've heard horror stories about trying to get the paperwork done in Mexico, and I totally see why you wouldn't want to deal with that!

As for not having the wedding day feel "special"... I guarantee you it will! Walking down the aisle in a gorgeous white dress and all the traditions that go with it... it will feel special! Promise! :)

I'm so excited for you, and can't wait to follow along on your journey!

Victoria Lynn said...

We got married almost a month before our actual wedding in Mexico. No way was I going through all those issues with getting married there! And to pay for it on top of the hassle, no thanks!

You are going to want to enjoy the days before your wedding, not worry about blood tests!

We took our legal ceremony as a practice run, we didn't dress up or exchange rings. No kiss even. I wanted the actual wedding to be "the wedding" 100%

Courtney@SDB said...

I had to add- My husband and I were married August 16, 2007 in the courthouse a month before he deployed to Iraq. It was very informal and took less than 5 minutes! We had our wedding in the church on August 16, 2008 and did every single detail as if it was our "first time" getting married. I do consider 2007 when we were married, but I have no regrets and would do it all the exact same way!

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