Do y'all know how hard it is to legally get married in Mexico?
Well, it's hard.
You have to have blood tests, get all your documents translated to Spanish, have the Mexican Consulate notarize all those documents, etc etc etc.
Well, I didn't want to spend 5 days of my vacation worried about all of that, so we decided to do the legal part here in Houston.
We are getting "married" on December 8th (the Saturday before we leave) at our church here in Houston. It's going to be very small. Just our immediate families, and the wedding party if they want to attend. Before I agreed to doing it there, I made sure that it was ok that it was as simple as possible.
I'm not wearing a wedding dress, I'm not walking down the aisle, John and I will arrive together, there will be no music or anything else traditional about this "wedding".
We are going to exchange rings at the church just because it's part of the ceremony, but will be taking them off aftewards and putting them back in their boxes until the 17th. I also won't be changing any documentation of my last name until the 17th. We will celebrate as our anniversary. We are looking at the 8th as a "formality".
Even though it's not traditional, I was pretty sure I still wanted to wear a white dress. I knew it would be hard to find a white dress in December so I've been searching all summer for something.
This picture I found on pinterest was my inspiration...
My wedding shoes are teal and because of the price tag, I knew I wanted to wear them for the church wedding too.
After searching ALL freakin summer for a white dress I finally found one. It's not exactly what I wanted, but I couldn't find any of the lace ones like I wanted.
Here's my outfit for the day...
Yes, it will be December and I'll be wearing a sleeveless dress and open toed shoes, but I don't care. I'll be in "vacation" mode :) I have a white peacoat I can add and my mom even suggested a denim jacket.
John's parents are going to take all of us to lunch afterwards and we'll probably have cake, but that's the extend of the celebration. Then it will be time to pack our millions of decorations, clothes, gifts, etc in to suitcases and head for the airport on Thursday!
Alot of people have asked me about this and how I feel about "technically" already being married when I walk down the aisle...
I don't care. I don't think it will take away from the moment at all. We are going to treat the 17th just like a normal wedding day. John is going to sleep in a different room and my mom and bridesmaids will be with me getting ready in our room up until 3:30 pm when I see my husband for the first time. That is our wedding day. We are having a real ceremony in Mexico with an officiant, vows, sand ceremony, ring exchanges, and even signed documents. It just won't be legal.
I've also gotten questions like "why not do it after?"
Honestly, I think this would take away from our wedding day. I would feel like we just went through all of that and yet, still aren't married. We'd have to handle everything when we get back instead of actually enjoying married life.
So, my questions for all of you...
Would you feel weird attending a wedding of someone who was already "technically" married, even in this situation?