There are so many things that I wish I would have known before I started planning my wedding and things that I wish people would have told me! I stressed alot about a few things so I thought I would put together this little post for girls planning their wedding or who will be in the future!
1. No one cares about your wedding as much as you do. Not your fiance', not your mom, not your mother in law, not your best friend. Your wedding day is a picture of what YOU want as a bride and what you have dreamed about. Don't get your feelings hurt when people don't want to talk about it all the time. Don't get mad at your fiance' if he says "You pick" or "I don't care." I know it's an exciting time for you, but no one wants to hear wedding talk 24/7 as much as you do! And since you're fiance' probably doesn't care about it as much as you do, if there is something he feels strongly about, try to make it happen! John was set on wearing a suit and dress shoes! As much as I liked the idea of a casual untucked white shirt, no ties, and flip flops, that's not what he wanted and he got it! (and he was right... I loved the way the guys outfits turned out!)
2. People will have negative things to say. I let my feelings get hurt one too many times when people had negatives to say about our wedding. Closer to the wedding I finally got it through my head that it didn't matter what they thought and it was about what
3. Don't over use Pinterest. Oh boy, this is a big one and something for the current generation of brides that used to not be a problem. Don't get me wrong, I love pinterest and I used it ALOT to plan our wedding. But how many times do you see the SAME stuff pop up on there for weddings? I see it alot. My favorite weddings are the ones with personal touches, not the ones where I can say, "Oh I saw that on Pinterest!" I used ideas on Pinterest and turned them in to my own. The little details are what make a wedding. Remember the kitties on my bouquet? Our guest 'book'? Those little things MAKE the wedding. You don't want to have the same details as every other bride do you??
4. Things will go wrong. They will. No getting around it. You can have every single little detail planned to the T, and you will have something go wrong. Don't stress or worry about it. It came a freaking downpour in the middle of our outdoor reception. We ended up still having a blast! No, it wasn't how I pictured the night ending up and yes I did boohoo like a baby, but it all ended well and everyone still had fun. And we have a funny story to tell now!
5. Don't wish away the days. Oh how I wish someone would have slapped me in the face everytime I posted a countdown picture!!! Your wedding is going to be one of the best days of your life. It all goes by too fast. I wish I could go back right now to the day we were getting on the airplane to head to Mexico. I counted down for 11 months to that day wishing it would hurry and get here and be over with and I regret it so much. I wish I could have slowed down time now. There is a clip of me on our Story Mix video when I'm in the room getting ready and I have my iPhone app out showing "0 days left." My friend who was videoing asked me how I felt, what was going through my head. You know what I said? "I'm ready for it to be over." I cringe every time I watch that part. At the time I was ready to walk down the aisle, see my husband and get the party started and start our honeymoon, but little did I know how FAST the day would fly by. How fast the whole week would fly by. So please ladies, take it all in, stop and enjoy your time being a fiance and bride!
So, that's MY advice for all of you....
But I took it a step further and asked other wives on twitter what they would tell someone planning their wedding if they asked for advice... Here's what they said:
I agree with every single one of them! And you can see that we even had some of the same ideas.
So, I hope that if you are planning a wedding or will be soon, this helped you some. I wish someone would have told me these things from the beginning.
If you are already married, would you add anything to this list?