Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Advice For the Bride (From a Wife)


There are so many things that I wish I would have known before I started planning my wedding and things that I wish people would have told me! I stressed alot about a few things so I thought I would put together this little post for girls planning their wedding or who will be in the future!

1. No one cares about your wedding as much as you do. Not your fiance', not your mom, not your mother in law, not your best friend. Your wedding day is a picture of what YOU want as a bride and what you have dreamed about. Don't get your feelings hurt when people don't want to talk about it all the time. Don't get mad at your fiance' if he says "You pick" or "I don't care." I know it's an exciting time for you, but no one wants to hear wedding talk 24/7 as much as you do! And since you're fiance' probably doesn't care about it as much as you do, if there is something he feels strongly about, try to make it happen! John was set on wearing a suit and dress shoes! As much as I liked the idea of a casual untucked white shirt, no ties, and flip flops, that's not what he wanted and he got it! (and he was right... I loved the way the guys outfits turned out!)



2. People will have negative things to say. I let my feelings get hurt one too many times when people had negatives to say about our wedding. Closer to the wedding I finally got it through my head that it didn't matter what they thought and it was about whatwe wanted! I got rude comments about having it in Mexico, about the time of year we picked, about the bridesmaid dresses, about the colors I picked, about the shoes, about why I was 'trashing the dress', about the table set up... I heard it all! You can't please everyone. And please don't try to!



3. Don't over use Pinterest. Oh boy, this is a big one and something for the current generation of brides that used to not be a problem. Don't get me wrong, I love pinterest and I used it ALOT to plan our wedding. But how many times do you see the SAME stuff pop up on there for weddings? I see it alot. My favorite weddings are the ones with personal touches, not the ones where I can say, "Oh I saw that on Pinterest!" I used ideas on Pinterest and turned them in to my own. The little details are what make a wedding. Remember the kitties on my bouquet? Our guest 'book'? Those little things MAKE the wedding. You don't want to have the same details as every other bride do you??



4. Things will go wrong. They will. No getting around it. You can have every single little detail planned to the T, and you will have something go wrong. Don't stress or worry about it. It came a freaking downpour in the middle of our outdoor reception. We ended up still having a blast! No, it wasn't how I pictured the night ending up and yes I did boohoo like a baby, but it all ended well and everyone still had fun. And we have a funny story to tell now!



5. Don't wish away the days. Oh how I wish someone would have slapped me in the face everytime I posted a countdown picture!!!  Your wedding is going to be one of the best days of your life. It all goes by too fast. I wish I could go back right now to the day we were getting on the airplane to head to Mexico. I counted down for 11 months to that day wishing it would hurry and get here and be over with and I regret it so much. I wish I could have slowed down time now. There is a clip of me on our Story Mix video when I'm in the room getting ready and I have my iPhone app out showing "0 days left." My friend who was videoing asked me how I felt, what was going through my head. You know what I said? "I'm ready for it to be over." I cringe every time I watch that part. At the time I was ready to walk down the aisle, see my husband and get the party started and start our honeymoon, but little did I know how FAST the day would fly by. How fast the whole week would fly by. So please ladies, take it all in, stop and enjoy your time being a fiance and bride!



So, that's MY advice for all of you....

But I took it a step further and asked other wives on twitter what they would tell someone planning their wedding if they asked for advice... Here's what they said:












I agree with every single one of them! And you can see that we even had some of the same ideas. 

So, I hope that if you are planning a wedding or will be soon, this helped you some. I wish someone would have told me these things from the beginning. 

If you are already married, would you add anything to this list? 



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20 comments:

Meredith said...

i just soaked this up like a sponge. and i think that for an outdoor, wedding in mexico your colors were prefect, it just fits!

Ashley Barnhill said...

Love this post... every single thing is so true!!! Hope it helps out future brides!

Meg Cady said...

This is one of the best posts I have ever read.
I am being serious.
Pinning (which I realize kinda goes against one of these)
but (fingers crossed) I will need this post for a reference very soon!

Thanks Savannah... and for the record (although you already know) I loved your wedding!!!

Chels said...

The more things that go wrong at the wedding, the more luck your marriage will have!

I forgot my bouquet when I walked down the aisle...
My Daddy accidentally ripped my veil outa my head as he was giving me a hug before he gave me to my Hubs...

I put the ring on the hubs RIGHT finger...

We walked down the aisle to Charlie Brown theme song...by choice (Were silly like that!)

It's safe to say we have a lot going for us based on all the catastrophes! I wouldn't have it any other way because now...anytime we talk about the wedding, all anyone can do is laugh! That makes us happy, because again...we are silly like that.

Cayla Hess said...

I agree, with everything. I wish we would have splurged more on a photographer and videographer. I wasn't completely excited about our pictures, and that makes me bummed. And I wish I would have taken more time to pick colors. I did it as a quick decision and when I look back I'm like, I don't think I liked that scheme as much :( Oh well!

Lindsay said...

Great advice! And you're right, something WILL go wrong! I planned an outdoor wedding/reception at sunset in the middle of the Arizona desert in April. When my wedding day arrived, it was cold, snowy, and rainy and we had to move the whole thing inside. I may not have had the outdoor sunset wedding that I always dreamed of, but at the end of the day, I was married to my love and our rainy day pictures came out really cute. :-)

Jessica said...

Thanks Savanah for this post! You are so right about many of the things. I am barely 3 months into planning and I have already experienced a little bit of everything you mentioned. I have to keep reminding myself that a wedding & planning shouldn't be stressful, it should be exciting! You already know how much I loved your wedding, and I appreciate your honestly and willingness to share everything about it! :D

Tamara @ Everything Happens said...

I love the journaling idea! And I totally agree that pictures are so important and worth the splurge!

Heather said...

I love this post and the advice!!! As you already know, I'm knee deep in wedding planning and I'm dealing with all of the above. I'm trying to take it all in stride and enjoy this time because it is flying by faster than I would like. I'm sad our engagement is almost over :(.

Veronica @ Passion, Pink & Pearls said...

Yes to all of these! Well put and well said. Perfect advice!

Ericka said...

Thank you so much for sharing this! I am getting married on June 29 and loved reading all of this great advice!

Vicki said...

I got from Etsy for my sister charms with the puppies for her flowers like you have with the cat ... she loved it! :)

Michael said...

It's not my time yet but this is excellent advice for when it's time!

Alyssa said...

Definitely needed to read this :) thanks for all the advice!!!!!

Katie said...

Yes to all of these!! I know that I rushed my day here and gone-- I too remember saying that I was just ready to have it done. Boy didn't I know just how fast time would fly!

Krista said...

These are all so great..thanks for this! Especially about no one caring as much as you do lol!

meandmr.com said...

Just wanted to stop by and say hello! I'm in the Texas blogger group too, and love meeting new bloggers :) I love, love, love your wedding photos :)

-Melanie @ meandmr.com

Holly Higgins said...

#1 is so true. I was in a friend's wedding and college and was so frustrated that she only talked about her wedding. I just didn't care about every. single. detail. Once it was my turn though, I finally understood!

Christina said...

Great post and tips! I hated wedding planning, so 6 months into it we scrapped everything and went to Vegas with our friends and family and got married in a cheesy hotel chapel. A lot of people had bad reactions about that, but you know what? I had fun, my friends had fun, and it's the marriage that matters anyway. 6 1/2 years and still going strong!

But seriously, I love everything about your wedding. Even the rain sounds like a blast!

Heidi said...

I just found your blog and love this post and already love you! I am a cat lady too, I'm from Houston AND I got married in Mexico and did a trash the dress session!
Oh, and yes something always foes wrong at the wedding! I also wish I could go back. And relive the day. :)

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