Thursday, October 3, 2013

Words You Don't Want to Hear



"You're going to need help getting pregnant"

Not exactly the words I wanted to hear at my doctors appointment last week.

I know that women struggle with this every single day and this is nothing new, but you never ever think it will be you sitting in your doctors office hearing those words.

I was diagnosed with PCOS in the Summer of 2011. My doctor at that time was horrible so I honestly didn't even know if I should believe her and I ended up finding a new doctor in the Medical Center. I've been seeing him the past 2 years now. My cycles had been regular up until around January of this year and have gradually gotten longer and longer. I finally made an appointment, told him what was going on and I heard the dreaded PCOS again. We talked about mine and John's plans for kids and that's when he said it.

"Because of your age and your PCOS, you are going to need help getting pregnant." 

I knew it was a possibility all along, but never wanted to believe it. My biggest fear is not being able to have kids so hearing that was just a punch in the stomach. I've joked with John about being "old" and how we better hurry up and start a family, but didn't anticipate the doctor saying that too. I mean I know 35 is considered 'high risk' but damn, I thought I had 6 more years before a doctor would use 'age.'

We're still in the early stages of figuring everything out. He referred me to a reproductive endocrinologist who I am seeing in November and we'll go from there. They drew a bunch of blood (9 tubes!) but I don't have the results back from that yet. He mentioned starting with Clomid and going from there. He told me that John and I needed to sit down and have a realistic discussion about starting a family because the longer we wait, the harder it's going to get, ultimately leading to IVF or even worse, no kids at all.

Right now, we're taking it day by day and enjoying our time before we have a family. We're also trying not to let it worry us too much until we get the blood results back and meet with the RE. I'm just thankful that I have a doctor that listened to me. I know a lot of doctors would say we needed to try for a year, etc etc, before referring me anywhere. I want to figure out what's wrong NOW, not wait, and he understood that. In fact, the first thing he did was say he was referring me without even letting me ask. I also am SO glad that I decided to move my care to the Texas Medical Center. I know I'll have the highest quality care there!!

I know we have a long way to go but I wanted to do an update for anyone who was wondering after my last post I wrote a few months ago...

And like I said, I know this is something that women deal with every day. That's why I'm putting this out there. I'd love to hear from you if you went through something similar!

So, now we wait until November and see where God takes us. Ultimately it's His plan that we have to trust and follow.

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16 comments:

Krystal Butherus said...

Thinking of you! I will say that you are right, it is pretty awesome that they are working on this NOW and not waiting!

Courtney said...

I absolutely understand where you are coming from. In 2009, at 23 years old, I was told the same thing about needing help along with a PCOS diagnosis. They put me on Metformin and we returned to the doctor for the next 4 months to see if the Metformin was doing anything. It came down to doing another test just shy of my 24th birthday. This test would basically tell me if I would ever carry a child on my own or not. I never made that appointment and just stopped going. I wasn't ready to hear that at such a young age. I had only been married for about 2 years and couldn't imagine being told I could never have children. I continued the Metformin to help with ovulation. I did eventually become pregnant later that year, but it was ectopic. Even after all of that, I continued the Metformin, and with a great OB/GYN, I was able to not only conceive our (almost) 2 year old daughter, but I have 2 months before our son joins our little family :)
There is hope, and having a good doctor that you trust is SO important. You will both be in my prayers as you start this journey!

Rachel said...

Good luck with everything, I will be thinking of you! It's great that your doctor is so proactive! And, off topic, but wait a minute- you're 35??? You do not look 35! haha ;)

Veronica Lee Burns said...

God sees you, God loves you, God has you.

In my hard times I remember those truths. His ways are infinitely better than our own! I know He has a plan for you two!

Erin said...

I was 18 when my first doctor told me I had PCOS and 21 when they finally did all of the blood work. From age 18 on I was told I'd need help getting pregnant, and that's what I always believed. Miracles happen. They do. I was working out, taking progesterone, and spending a lot of time one on one with kids. Somehow my hormones aligned for the first time ever and we got pregnant. My doctors each only had God to give credit to though. Stick with your doctors and keep the faith, I know great things are in store for you girl. You'll make an amazing mom one day! If you ever have questions or just want some encouragement please don't hesitate to reach out to me!

Rebekah said...

I know how frustrating it is to hear the words that you'll need help getting pregnant, although for me, it was a blessing to hear them because I didn't have a specific diagnosis so no doctor would take me seriously until we had met their timeline of trying. Doing the initial bloodwork is daunting but you'll get tons of info back and then can hopefully get a plan figured out! In our case two months of clomid and pregnyl was all I needed but I know it's frustrating. I'm so glad you have wonderful doctors to work with you because that's the most important part! Just take it one step at a time. Easier said than done, I know :)

kayla pfeil said...

I have the same problem. My hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant for nine months and still have not been able to conceive. I am going on my third round of clomid and taking metformin to try to regulate everything. I am praying for you and I know how hard it is for you right now. The best advice I can give you is to hold your head up and don't let anything bother you. I have learned during this time that you have to take the time and be thankful for what you already have in life. Friends and Family will mean the world to you during this time.

KAYLA

Allison said...

We should chat. I was on clomid and I wanna talk to you about it if you want to! Email me! :) texasmrsblog@gmail.com good luck lovie!

Christelle said...

I can only imagine what your feeling, since I've never personally experienced it (but also fear that due to my age and current single status I will one day face the same battle...gotta find a "baby daddy" first though, ha). Plus, even though you mentioned many women go through this, you shouldn't let that belittle your wants, wishes, hopes (does that make any sense??). I hate when people come back with that remark ("many others deal with it, too") - makes me feel silly/stupid for my fear, which isn't fair in my opinion.

Sorry for the long ramble, all of that was just to say I'm sorry you're having to go through this and hope that your doctor can find the right solution for you to have a baby someday when the time is right!

Kathryn said...

Your story sounds a lot like mine. I went to the gyn after going off b/c and not having any cycle for 4 months. I never got an official PCOS diagnosis, but I did have a high glucose test. (had to take the 3 hour ones pregnant women take) That was awesome sitting there being not pregnant. Anyway, my doc didn't think it was PCOS and sent me to an RE, who made me go through all the infertility testing (blood, ultrasound, HSG) to determine there was no specific explanation for my long/irregular cycles, and prescribed clomid, which got me back on track. However, I had to wait 4 months for the initial appointment, then that whole process with the RE took a few months to even get to the prescription. So at that point it had been a year since I went off bc. On one hand I wanted to fix my body, but on the other hand, I wanted to try to let it fix itself. Hope your doctor can give you answers, let me know if you have questions.

Valerie said...

I feel for you girl! I was 27 when I got married and already knew that I had PCOS. My husband and I decided that we wouldn't use any protection and just "see what happens". Well, nothing happened. My horrible OB/GYN just kept telling me I needed to lose weight. I was maybe 10lbs overweight, not obese by any means. So, I took it upon myself to seek out an RE and it was the best decision I ever made. He talked over all my options with me and just gave me so much hope! I started out taking Clomid and got pregnant on my second round. Unfortunately, I lost the baby at 9 weeks. It took me about 6 months before I decided I want to try again. The Clomid wasn't working anymore, so I am now starting my first round of Femara. I've been where you are right now, and I know how heartbreaking it is. Just keep your head up. You'll get pregnant soon!

Amber said...

Oh Savanah, I'm sorry to hear that. But I sure am glad you found a DR who is taking your concerns seriously. I'll keep you in my prayers and hope that you get good luck with the RE!

Lauren said...

I know those words hurt but ultimately God's plan is going to happen and that quote says it perfectly. Just let go and see what happens! :)

Miss Lace said...

Sending prayers your way Savannah! I'm sure God has special plans for you and your family.

Sarah @ More Sangria, please! said...

Praying for both and John.

Also? You do not look 35! not even close.

Julie said...

This is the same situation we were in about 6 years ago. I have PCOS as well. I had been trying for about 10 years without any outside help. Once I went to an endocrinologist we were pregnant within a year, thank God. Our precious miracle is now five. If you need to talk I'm here.

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