Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Baby Ryan: Telling our Family and Friends

We got our first positive pregnancy test at 3 weeks 4 days pregnant. Of course we knew we couldn't start telling people at that point. Even though it was SO hard!

We decided we would wait until after we had an ultrasound and knew that baby was ok and had a heartbeat. So, we had to wait over 3 weeks before we could actually tell anyone because I had my ultrasound at 6 weeks 4 days.

It was so hard to decide how we would tell both of our families around the same time without them being suspicious. My family lives in Ft. Worth, John's parents live here in Houston, but his sisters live in Austin and Lubbock.

John's mom didn't know for sure that I had taken Clomid because last I had talked to her we hadn't decided yet. My mom knew I had taken it, but I might have told her a small fib that I started my period so she wouldn't be suspicious ;)

So we decided that we would go to Ft. Worth Saturday morning after I had had my ultrasound that Thursday. We would spend Saturday night there and then drive back to Houston and tell John's parents on Sunday.

Once that was figured out, I had to figure out what we were going to give them and how we were going to do it. I wanted it to be special. I know my mom has been ready for us to have a baby for a very long time and this would be John's parents first grandchild.

Etsy and Pinterest to the rescue as usual!

We got both of our parents these little blocks with the first ultrasound picture on it. My mom and step dad are already GG and Cowboy so we did that on theirs. We had never talked about what John's parents would be called so we just put grandparents on theirs.

And since John's parents didn't have names picked out we got them this book.

For our siblings, we got these cards. (I had to have them take pictures for me because I forgot to take some of my own!)

Once we got to Ft. Worth that Saturday, I was so nervous and still didn't really know HOW I was going to give my sister her card or my parents the blocks. My mom had gotten a lot of my family together over at my Grannie's house for dinner which was perfect but wasn't sure how I was going to pull it off. My sisters birthday was in July and I hadn't given her her gift yet, so after we ate I said I was going out to the car to get her birthday present. I grabbed her card, her REAL birthday card and the gift bag with the blocks in it since that could be played as her birthday present. I walked in and handed her her card and told her it was her birthday card. Surprisingly, she read the whole thing and had no idea what it meant until she opened it up and saw the ultrasound picture. No one else was really paying attention until she burst in to tears and gave me a hug. Still no one had a clue what was going on. I remember hearing my aunt say "Did she give you a trip or something??" haha. So, then I handed my mom and Tim the gift bag and then everyone figured it out. All I remember is there was a bunch of yelling and crying! I had planned on getting the whole thing on video, but by the time John even realized what was going on, his phone had died!! And my phone was in my pocket. So we have no pictures or video of this. But it definitely was so memorable and I am so glad my Grannie, aunt and other family were there also!

Sunday afternoon we were back on the road headed back to Houston to tell John's parents. I carried a big purse with me so I was able to stuff their blocks and the book down in my bag. John's parents thought we were just coming for dinner like we always do on Sundays so they weren't suspicious at all. After we ate dinner and were about to eat dessert, I told John's mom that I had a book I wanted her to read and got up to go get it. We always talk about books and she gives me books to read so she didn't think anything of it. I handed her the grandparents book and she sat there for a second and read the title and said "Are you trying to tell me something?" Then it was all chaos from there! haha. And we actually have this on video! Since John's sisters live out of town, we put their cards in the mail Saturday before we left, hoping they would get them Monday or Tuesday. So we told John's parents they couldn't say anything until they got their cards in the mail. Well, Katie finally got hers on Tuesday and then by Thursday evening, Meaghan still hadn't gotten hers, so we had to send her a picture of the card. It wasn't ideal, but we couldn't keep it from her any more!

Then it was time to start telling our close friends! The weekend after we told our parents was the first Tech football game. If you've been reading my blog for any period of time, you know Tech football is a big deal in our house and we watch the football game every Saturday with our friends. So, I knew we had to tell that close group of friends that weekend, otherwise someone would ask. I knew the "Why aren't you drinking?" question would come up. So again, I was on the hunt for a cute way to announce it with a football theme. I couldn't find much, so I figured a cookie cake was a great idea - it's delicious and you can put whatever message you want on it. We told our friends we were brining dessert and showed up with this cookie cake...

It was pretty funny because our friend Summer walked in, opened the box, saw the Tech thing and said "Oh how cute!", closed the box and walked away. Everyone had walked in the house at this point so I said, "Summer, did you read it?" So everyone walked over, huddled around the box, and then a bunch of screams! haha. It was so much fun and the perfect way to tell all of our friends. 

And of course there were other friends that weren't there that got other text messages...

I made sure that everyone important to us knew about the baby before posting it on social media. I wanted to share that time with just our close family and friends with just us knowing before we made it public.

This was also time for me to find the perfect way to announce our baby to the world. We were going on a cruise, so a beach picture would be perfect. We are beach people. We were married on the beach! I knew we had to incorporate that somehow and of course came up with the perfect way for us to share our big news.

{taken on the beach of Half Moon Cay, Bahamas}

I am so glad everyone knows now and I can't post about it and talk about it openly. I am so happy with how all of my ideas in my head came to life with telling our family and friends. We both will always remember those special moments!


Monday, October 13, 2014

Baby Ryan: The Details

I guess we have to take this all the way back to June of last year. Yes, June 2013. I don't remember the exact date, conversation or anything, but that's about when we decided to "let's just see what happens" and stop using birth control/protection. I had been ready for a baby for awhile, John wasn't quite ready yet, but we both knew it could take awhile. I was 29 years old (old in the doctors book) and had a history of irregular periods, annovulation, and PCOS. We knew it could be hard for us to have a baby.

Fast forward to November 2013 and we finally met with a Reproductive Endocrinologist, mainly to just see what was wrong with me and figure out why my periods were so irregular. Not necessarily to start any fertility testing or treatments. All of my blood work came back good, but my ultrasound showed I had classic PCOS signs. I was told to track my ovulation for 3 months and then return with my findings and we would go from there. When you have irregular periods, tracking ovulation is hard. Sometimes I could track it, sometimes I couldn't. We still weren't 100% ready to go forward with any fertility testing after 3 months of trying that so we decided to wait on going back to see him.

And then in February of this year, we found out we had gotten pregnant on our own, but unfortunately it ended in miscarriage. After that, I 100% knew I was ready to be a mom, but I knew I needed time to recover and deal with the loss.

We both decided in June that we would go back and see the RE and just see what he says. We would do whatever fertility testing was recommended to just see what was wrong with us. We had a very productive visit. They decided our first step would be 3 rounds of Clomid. Since I had gotten pregnant before, he knew I had at least 1 tube open and at least some of John's sperm was doing it's job. :) If in 3 months we weren't pregnant with Clomid, then we would do the necessary tests to make sure that we could actually get pregnant on our own. The nurse gave us our schedule of when I was supposed to take the medicine, to ovulate, when to have sex, etc. It was alot of information.

After we left that visit, we still weren't 100% sure we would start Clomid with my next cycle.
We had some time to think about it and to decide. In the mean time is when all the confusion was going on with John's job and the house. We didn't know what job he was going to take, where we were going to live, etc. Then I started my period on July 3rd so we had to make a decision soon. I was due to take Clomid on July 7th if we were going to start it with this cycle. I decided I was going to take it at night (if I were going to start it) so even on July 7th up until bed time we still weren't 100% sure. We want a baby, but are we ready? Is this a good time? So many questions and reservations, but so much want in our hearts too.

And as most of you probably have figured out, I took my first dose of Clomid on July 7th and took it for 5 days. I started tracking ovulation around Day 12 of my cycle, I ovulated on Day 18 and then you know the rest. ;)

On Wednesday, July 30th I went in to the RE for an ultrasound of my ovaries because with Clomid you have a risk of getting ovarian cysts. My ovaries looked good so the nurse told me to take a pregnancy test that Sunday. I had all sorts of emotions going through me. I could be pregnant.

I stopped at Target on my way home to pick up some things and decided to grab a box of pregnancy tests too. I should also mention that during this time we were living in a hotel. We had put our house on the market and had so many showings scheduled, we had to get out of the house with the cats. That night, I decided to do a test even though she told me to wait until Sunday. It was positive. I was pregnant. There was no go out and surprise John with a cute little card or cake or onesie. I walked out of the bathroom of our small hotel room and said, "well I'm pregnant!" We didn't want to get excited yet, because it was early. I had had a false positive before.

The next morning I did a test and it was negative. Then later that day positive. And then finally Friday morning, another positive. We knew at that point, I was pregnant! We could finally be excited and start talking about baby stuff and not gonna lie, things like "oh shit, what are we going to do!" came out of both of our mouths multiple times. But we were going to be parents!

I called the nurse Monday morning, I went in for my HCG blood work 3 different times and it was all perfect and rising and doubling like it should.

And on Thursday, August 21st, we got to see our little miracle for the very first time. I was 6 weeks and 4 days pregnant. We could see the heart beating and the baby measured exactly on track. The first thing out of John's mouth was "There's only one in there right??" With Clomid you have a 1/20 chance of having multiples... haha! And yes, there's only one!

Because I was seeing the RE, I got to go back in 2 weeks and see the baby again. On Tuesday September 2nd, I got to see our baby and hear the baby's heart beat for the first time. I was 8 weeks and 2 days pregnant. 

The next week I had some spotting so I went in to check on the baby and everything turned out fine. That was Friday September 5th and we finally had a "baby." The ultrasound tech showed me the baby in 3D and I was just absolutely amazed at the way the human body can work. The baby was moving all around. It was crazy. I was 9 weeks and 5 days pregnant. 

The RE released me to start seeing my regular doctor so on September 29th I got to see our baby for the 4th time at my regular OB's office where I was 12 weeks and 1 day pregnant. The doctor said everything was progressing normally, I had all my prenatal blood work done and here we are today! 

I am currently 14 weeks pregnant and plan on posting more in the next week about how we told our family and friends, answering all the questions you've had and starting my weekly bump pictures/updates! 

Thank you so much for all of your facebook, instagram and blog messages and congratulations! They all mean so much to both of us!

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